“If someone isn’t what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.”
― Paulo Coelho
It is as easy to judge a person as it is to breathe.
What is it to judge a person- it is to be prejudiced and hence altering your opinions on a person and redlining them on basis like appearance, clothing, demeanour etc. It is a rather unnoticed process of barring yourself from knowing a person who could possibly complete you, perhaps not what you’re looking for (my Economics taught me that needs should be satisfied before wants).
My very motive of writing this piece is to attempt answering a quite simple, deep question: What does it take to avoid judging a person?
To me, it is all about flaunting the scars that you’ve got on your body, shouting out to the world that yes, “I have, with utmost pride, come out to be triumphant in all that was put it my way, to hinder my mirth.” By this, by Nature’s decree, one ceases to judge.
To me, it is all about rightfully saying “Been there, done that.” Effortlessly, you convey to the world that you’ve borne sufficient pain to be making the daft mistake of judging the one experiencing it right in front of you.
To me, it is about being wise and empathetic towards the ones who are confronting the evil that is diffused among us. All of us are inflicted with the words from the ones of our own kind on our path to attain the holy grail. Briefly, every person you come across is fighting a battle you are ignorant about.
Often are people judged by the car they drive, the apparels they wear or the cell phones they use or for the worse, the people they choose to fall in love with. What does it take to judge a person?
The fulfilment through and free and regular supply of all our demands, the lack of absence of any sort of boundaries, limits.
Let’s face this- most of us are given a monthly allowance to match our expenses which at times compels us to avoid attending a social gathering, doesn’t it? It isn’t bad on your part to respond negatively going against your parents’ will by demanding for an extra sum. The ridiculous issue is what people make of it. Despite going through the very same problems, we choose to mock our friends for it than perceiving their apathy. The manner in which we deal with this has become a concoction of mundane issues.
Today, we’ve drooped down to a level where we don’t attend parties only because we fear being judged for repeating piece(s) of cloth. It is just a plain ludicrous crisis that we all are heading towards.
Why do people judge people for loving a person of their own sex? Only because we’ve been brought up in a society where we’ve been blinded right as we were born.
Let me quote Billie Joe Armstrong “I think people are born bisexual, and it’s just that our parents and society kind of veer us off into this feeling of ‘Oh, I can’t’. They say it’s taboo. It’s ingrained in our heads that it’s bad, when it’s not bad at all. It’s a very beautiful thing.”
We’ve throttled our mentality to heinous thought processes evoking feelings of disgust and disdain. And it is not only with respect to love, it is with regard to all that we just fancy.
There are aplenty issues which could be cited as a part of the justification, but all I shall do is leave you with this mesmerising video:
Any Hans Zimmer music fanboys here, eh?
“The more one judges, the less one loves.”
― Honoré de Balzac
Author: Jash Dalal